Good quotes for helping friends think.... who are being unkind to someone who is grieving?

I had a few major losses in my life and just when I could use I dunno some comfort, there is this overarching theme of uncaring, neglectful and condescending people. Whether or not I never noticed before and they were always this way. I am having trouble putting into words what I would like to say to them. My mind is addled and weary and not so witty...any help appreciated. Thanks